Ok, so maybe that is not exactly true. Our guides can be people we love and/or admire most certainly. My cherished guides have mentored me in many ways and have taught me so much about therapy, relationships, and the human condition. Whenever I am feeling “off” or out of sync with a client I channel my mentors and borrow their strength and experience.
Borrow strength when you need to.
But there are times that the best guides are not easily tolerated or even welcome. For example, I learned long ago to look at the most difficult people in my life as teachers, they are either reflecting back my own dark side-and therefore my edges-or they are forcing me to stand back up stronger when they knock me down. Certainly we understand that the Pheonix rises from the flame better, brighter, and bolder. Embrace these unwelcome guests into your life because they will absolutely assist in you as you burn off what doesn’t serve you.
Sometimes the guides are not even people but emotions. Discomfort, for example, cues us that we are pushing through something and/or stepping outside of the box that has become the cage. If you are not uncomfortable then are you really changing? Are you really doing what you need to be doing to become the person you want to be?
Anxiety, similarly, also nudges us toward growth and alignment. The majority of my clients who are coming to me for anxiety are feeling that way because they are hiding something under the rug…the avoidance of breaking up with their partner, quitting their job, or ending an abusive relationship, etc… create anxiety because these things are supposed to make us anxious. Our anxiety signals change and serves as an emotional knock on the door…ummm something is not right here. Pay attention.
