I think that we all feel victimized at times regardless of where we are in our lives. When my victim part gets activated I feel small and slip into feeling helpless and insecure. Without awareness I can become more anxious, doubt my life's direction, and can blame those around me for my circumstance negating any and all personal accountability.
For a long time I focused on what triggered these "victim episodes" as a way to prevent the collapse. But somewhere along the line I learned that the episodes are inevitable. A fact that is probably due more to my humanness then to my own personal wiring.
I now focus on how to shorten the cycle of activation. I remember that I have choice. I remind myself that control is an illusion. The intention now is to walk directly into my victim thinking because this is ultimately the way to back out of it. Avoidance just does not work. Instead I do my best to name what is happening, figure out what I need, and find the opportunity to grow.
...Because growth is happening always. For some of us it is becoming something for most of us it is the unbecoming that creates space. But regardless of where we are in life the things that happen are more than likely happening for us versus to us.
Everything is happening for you. Find the opportunity.
