Embrace The Mess

When my father died I remembered something a mentor said to me years ago…grief is messy. Those words came back when my dad died, before he died, and also again in the aftermath. Watching a strong man wither and die from Pancreatic Cancer was more difficult then anything I thought possible. It was indeed messy.

Grief is not clean. Grief is not tidy. It is not like what we see on tv where something happens, someone falls apart, and then they get on with things…sometimes in the span of 30 minutes. Grief is not linear nor is it a process we can control.

Remembering to embrace the mess gives us a break and to have grace for ourselves and our humanness. This process can also allow grace for others around us and perhaps even for those who leave us.

You will get through this period of your life. Give yourself an opportunity to heal by giving yourself permission to fall apart.

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