Grief can overwhelm us and a lot of the time we can feel as if we are not moving through it.  Feeling stuck, we can feel lost and unsure of what is happening to us and of what to do next.  Many people will come to me asking questions about how to keep moving forward.  I will answer a few...[ read more ]

In this post I write about three steps you can take to heal from sexual trauma along with offering some education about how survivors are impacted through their traumatic experience.  Speak Shame I am regularly asked by clients questions about how to heal from sexual trauma.  Although every path is as unique as the person, there are several steps I...[ read more ]

Many clients want to know about Brainspotting Therapy and how it is both similar and different from EMDR or other therapies created to help people move through trauma.  In this blog I discuss two key differences between the two therapies, the benefits of Brainspotting, and I give a case example of a client who experienced profound results.   What is Brainspotting...[ read more ]

When we are freshly wounded most of us don't know what to do. When it first happened you may not have known what to do or where to go.  This is the point of impact.  This is what happens when we feel fractured or split in two.  Perhaps you are dealing with fracture as I write this. Trauma disconnects us...[ read more ]

We know through therapies such as Somatic Experience that our brains work to help our nervous system rev up or slow down based on what is happening in our environment.  The problem is that sometimes our brains (more specifically our brain stems) can't always differentiate between real or perceived threat.  So whether you are running from a bear or simply...[ read more ]

Roberta, 44, had been in therapy for issues related to childhood abuse and neglect that had followed her throughout adulthood.  She had been in and out of therapy, struggled with feelings of hopelessness, and had felt insignificant for the majority of her life.  When she came to me for Brainspotting, she was exhausted from the ongoing symptoms related to her...[ read more ]

Meeting with Tom today I realized that sometimes we are dealing with anger all wrong.  We either beat ourselves up for having it or we feel righteous as we vent (loudly) to those around us without thought to the injuries we may cause as we unleash.  When we feel wronged we are supposed to be angry...right?  Right?  Well yes, and...[ read more ]

I recently did a workshop on suicide and self-injury at a conference for educators.  Although I have routinely talked about my brother's suicide and how his death impacted our family, I went into more detail then I have in past presentations because I understand more fully now the power of sharing our stories. Stories bring us together, humanize the "other",...[ read more ]

NOT an actual judge...let me be clear.  I am talking about the judge that lives in our heads.  It is that constant voice that "judges" us along with those around us.  Pay attention to how many times a day you tell yourself that you are not good enough, that you messed up again, that no one will ever love you,...[ read more ]

When I do yoga (never as much as I would like) I always enjoy hearing from the teacher at the beginning of class. These kind souls always have words of wisdom that I can take with me through my practice.  I appreciate the prompts alongside the movement. One class that is particularly memorable for me started with a lesson on...[ read more ]